Miracles DO Happen (but it helps if you know how to create them)

4 years ago this month I found myself at a very unexpected crossroads. My husband and I had rented a gorgeous apartment in Paris for a month-long artist sabbatical and about 5 weeks before we were scheduled to leave (without any warning whatsoever) he told me he wasn’t coming anymore. He wasn’t coming anymore because he wasn’t sure he wanted to be married anymore. Ummm… Yeah.

In my latest video I share the destructive, unconscious patterns that were preventing me from having my dream life, and the diamond insight I gained that allowed me to go from heartbroken and alone to loved up in this beautiful jungle paradise, with my sexy French beloved, an amazing community of inspiring  friends and a baby girl growing in my womb.

Yes, miracles DO happen.. but it helps if we know how to create them!

If You Don’t Know Where You’re Going… Any Road Will Lead You There.

For most of my life, I concentrated on what I wanted to achieve, conquer, or attain. To my surprise, and subsequent disappointment, I wasn’t as happy or satisfied as I imagined I’d be when I was successful in achieving, conquering and attaining where I’d set my focus.

As I sought information about the world and myself  (clearly what I thought I knew wasn’t true) I recognized we’re driven to achieve, conquer and attain because we assume it will make us feel OK in some way. While all of the diverse displays of human behavior stem from our desires to be accepted, important, worthwhile, respected, desired, loved, enough, etc, we usually think of our emotions as secondary to our goals.

Prioritizing what we want to achieve verses how we’d like to feel actually impedes our creations because our vision for ourselves is tangible, it’s finite, and it has limits even if we aren’t aware of those limits. Our vision for self is a reflection of the social framework we’ve soaked up from our families, our friends, and the powerful programming that informs us what it means to be a man or woman in our society.

This isn’t say, just sit around on your couch and think about being happy and you will be. It’s to underscore that many of the achievements and attainments our mainstream culture promotes as the answer to our happiness, don’t deliver genuine happiness at all, so it’s up to us to get clear on how we want to feel, so our creations are aligned with those desires.

With this understanding I wrote a list in no particular order,  folded it up, and tucked it away in a inside a drawer.

1. Conscious

2. Courageous

3. Inspired

4. Loved

5. In Love

6. Independent

7. Free

8. Creative

9. Healthy

10. Productive

11. Compassionate

12. Like I’m making a contribution

13. Abundant

14. Playful

15. Respected

16. Accepting

17. Balanced

18. Musical

19. Brave

20. Trusting

21. Beautiful

22. Sexy

23. Capable

24. Supported

25. Happy

26. Prosperous

27. Valued

28. Healed

I had no idea how powerful this declaration would be. At first I didn’t correlate this simple list with the sudden changes in my life, but after enduring a nearly month long energy release (what most people call the flu), watching relationships collapse and roads diverge, I started to wonder if perhaps my life was being rearranged to support the ways in which I wanted to feel?

Sure enough this leveling process in my life birthed an entirely new cycle, flush with present time alignments. After a period of seemingly painful destruction, my life began to flourish with new friendships, creative opportunities, and life’s ever elusive – inspiration. Most importantly, the demolition of the old, allowed me to make recognition of the things in my life that don’t support how I want to feel, making it easier to let go of old patterns and beliefs.

While this goes against everything our mainstream culture promotes, I’m increasingly reminded if I want something I’ve never had, I’ve got to be willing to do things I’ve never done.

If you haven’t done this simple exercise, I encourage you turn your compass to your deepest desires and discover the infinite ways that your life will expand.

How do you create your life? Do you set directives based on how you want to feel?  Let me know in the comments!

 

Featured image by Feyoga

One Step to a More Positive You!

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” – Maya Angelou

Would you be surprised to discover that the number one addiction in our country isn’t alcohol; it isn’t drugs; it isn’t even sex! The number one addiction that the majority of people suffer from is negativity. Research shows that on average, people complain 15-30 times a day. Yikes!

In accordance with the law of attraction, we attract people, opportunities, and creations that match our frequency; therefore, we should all only have positive, creative thoughts zooming through our heads, with the intention of bringing such opportunities our way. If only it was that simple!

The reality is we are schooled in reading, writing, and math, but very few us get any instruction on mindfulness. So a few years ago when I stumbled across the good folks at www.acomplaintfreeworld.org – whose charge is to abolish complaining and negativity completely – I decided to give it a try.

Based on proven scientific evidence that it takes 21 days to change a behavior, the idea is that you put a bracelet on one wrist, then each time you find yourself complaining, verbally or in thought, make recognition by switching the bracelet to the other wrist. I caught myself being negative about little things and realized that lamenting about the weather,  traffic, or a plane delay is an unconscious way that we converse and connect. I discovered that my negative thoughts were as varied as being irritated with myself for not making it to yoga as many times as I’d wanted that week and about my appearance, to complaining about a task I didn’t want to do at work – each time, taking note and switching the bracelet to my other wrist.

As the 21 days rolled on, I found myself switching my bracelet less, and regardless of what the present moment delivered, I could tell I was in greater acceptance of it. Most surprising was other people’s complaining, negativity and gossip, which before felt pretty normal, began to feel like fingernails scraping down a chalkboard.

Our lives are a manifestation of the thoughts in our heads and the words that we speak. Once we understand this, we know that  life is exactly how we allow it to be. Cleansing ourselves of the negativity that is inside us makes it very difficult for outside negative energy to be drawn and attach to us. While there are many things in this world that we have no control over, we actually have a lot of influence over our own energy vibration, which is the source of what and how we create in our lives. The ability to alter it  is our birthright, very ordinary human magic that most of us didn’t learn to cultivate growing up. Imagine how different the world would be if we all made the effort to complain less?

I’m using my favorite bracelet that I acquired deep in the Amazon Jungle.

I noticed a tangible difference after my first negativity cleanse; however, I know that in order to continue to grow and attract brightness into my life, I need to make it a consistent practice. So with the New Year upon us, today, I’m starting another 21 days and invite all of YOU to do it with me! All you need a bracelet, a rubber band, or piece of string, and a desire to create of happiness and abundance.

Who’s with me?